Archive For The “Marriage” Category

Family Vacations: Buy Experiences, Not Things

By | June 19, 2015

Getting out of the house and taking a vacation is an excellent way to spend some quality time with your family and unwind from the humdrum of everyday life. It’s easy to get into routines and just as easy to let the summer slip without the memories you’d really wish you had. If you plan […]

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5 Signs Of A Healthy Couple Relationship

By | November 28, 2014

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How do you know if your relationship is healthy? People often try and find out what is healthy based on what they experienced in their previous relationships. Consciously or not, they often determine health based on what they experienced when growing up in their family of origin. There are many indicators that would help show […]

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Look Where You Want To Go : Keep Showing Up!

By | August 26, 2014

                            She did 31 full Ironman’s before she won one of them. She won the Ultraman 6.2 mile swim, 260 mile bike, and double marathon 52.4 mile run, she is Hillary Biscay. “Look where you want to go, keep showing up … you’ll […]

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Not Just Friends: Emotional Affairs and Infidelity

By | November 9, 2013

Overly friendly e-mails. Txts messages that are ‘off record’. Hidden Facebook dialogues. Just friends, right? No, there’s not sex, but these relationships damage marriages and are a slippery slope. Is it infidelity? You bet it is. Traditionally, the work environment has provided the most ideal context and potential for extramarital affairs. But, old flames or […]

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Do I Have A Pornography Problem?

By | July 24, 2012

I was talking recently with a few friends about my role as a therapist and the general nature of the difficulties that people present with. One of the questions they asked was how I as a therapist assess and measure whether or not a client is dabbling in pornography or addicted to pornography. I replied […]

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What Is It Most Women Really Want?

By | December 28, 2011

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Many of my clients, both men and women, come to counseling seeking understanding and curbing of symptoms in their marriages and/or families. Most have their own stories, own perceptions, and own histories. Human beings are complex individuals with relationship histories and pasts that make each one of us all our own. As I have worked with […]

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Helicopter Grandparenting: When Helping Becomes Hovering and Harming

By | November 11, 2011

I recently had a couple in my office for a variety of issues. We initially started to dialogue and generate some solutions concerning some significant problems they were facing. Their problem began long before their marriage, as I will explain, but had become an acute issue that was taxing their relationship and marriage as well […]

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Sexual Addiction & Brain Arousal – Neurobiology of Internet Porn

By | September 12, 2011

I’ve seen a consistent theme with clients that present to my office with sexual addiction. This theme is a significant confusion about how they get their needs met. I find that many if not all of them come with beliefs and assumptions due to their addiction and history. These assumptions are in large part due to their […]

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Emotional Codependency in Marriage and Parenting Relationships

By | August 7, 2011

Codependency has typically been associated or understood to be a dynamic that occurs with individuals that are addicted to substances and their partners or spouses. Today the phenomenon we call codependency can be associated with those that are in fact not using substances of any kind. Mothers and children, husbands and wives, friends and associates […]

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Relationships and Perception: Are You Sure?

By | June 23, 2011

I work with individuals and couples weekly that seek help in my office for relationship challenges. Some arrive due to issues of trust and infidelity while others are seeking answers to issues that stem from their families they grew up in. Most individuals, healthy or not, seem to battle or engage in a phenomenon that […]

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