Archive For The “Relationships” Category

Family Vacations: Buy Experiences, Not Things

By | June 19, 2015

Getting out of the house and taking a vacation is an excellent way to spend some quality time with your family and unwind from the humdrum of everyday life. It’s easy to get into routines and just as easy to let the summer slip without the memories you’d really wish you had. If you plan […]

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5 Tips If You Are Alone For The Holidays

By | December 6, 2014

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Being alone does not have to mean you feel lonely. You can have an enjoyable holiday season, even if you are alone. Holidays are a time when we share and give love, and often people who are alone during this time can unfortunately end up feeling depressed when they do not have people with whom […]

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5 Signs Of A Healthy Couple Relationship

By | November 28, 2014

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How do you know if your relationship is healthy? People often try and find out what is healthy based on what they experienced in their previous relationships. Consciously or not, they often determine health based on what they experienced when growing up in their family of origin. There are many indicators that would help show […]

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Back To School: Staying Connected To Your Teen

By | September 4, 2014

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We live in a world that thrives on instant gratification. The prevalence of mobile devices and tablets provides a forum of content on demand. Unfortunately, although we have a plethora of facts at our fingertips with our trusty smart phones, the answers to our complex social questions and emotional quandaries are not always so instantaneous. As […]

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Look Where You Want To Go : Keep Showing Up!

By | August 26, 2014

                            She did 31 full Ironman’s before she won one of them. She won the Ultraman 6.2 mile swim, 260 mile bike, and double marathon 52.4 mile run, she is Hillary Biscay. “Look where you want to go, keep showing up … you’ll […]

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Overcoming Depression : Finding Hope

By | August 15, 2014


The recent media attention and tragic loss of actor Robin Williams, one of the most remembered actors of all time, has raised significant discussion around mental health in America. I think of one of his films, Goodwill Hunting, albeit intense, is one of my personal favorites something that’s had a significant impact on my thinking […]

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Telling Your Story: Finding Wholeness & Meaning

By | May 7, 2014

Our memories from the past and the stories we tell are the threads that make up the tapestry of our lives and give our existence meaning. Millions of moments, all stitched together one thread at a time, form a large mosaic we call our life. Each person is weaving their own story, their own narrative. Each […]

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Not Just Friends: Emotional Affairs and Infidelity

By | November 9, 2013

Overly friendly e-mails. Txts messages that are ‘off record’. Hidden Facebook dialogues. Just friends, right? No, there’s not sex, but these relationships damage marriages and are a slippery slope. Is it infidelity? You bet it is. Traditionally, the work environment has provided the most ideal context and potential for extramarital affairs. But, old flames or […]

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Do I Have A Pornography Problem?

By | July 24, 2012

I was talking recently with a few friends about my role as a therapist and the general nature of the difficulties that people present with. One of the questions they asked was how I as a therapist assess and measure whether or not a client is dabbling in pornography or addicted to pornography. I replied […]

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What Is It Most Women Really Want?

By | December 28, 2011


Many of my clients, both men and women, come to counseling seeking understanding and curbing of symptoms in their marriages and/or families. Most have their own stories, own perceptions, and own histories. Human beings are complex individuals with relationship histories and pasts that make each one of us all our own. As I have worked with […]

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